Have you ever had to take a big leap of faith in your life, and just had to trust that everything will unfold?
I seem to have had to make them consistently over the past few years, and although I am always listening to my gut and heart, I'm not sure the fear ever goes, even when it’s filled with a lot of joy.
I’m seeing several friends at the moment who are also making big changes, nervous of the unknown, but at the same time realizing that going on the way they are is no longer possible either.
Finding our purpose, or our path isn’t always an easy navigation. Often we stumble our way through working out what it is we want.
It’s nearly 10 years since I realized that Film Production wasn’t my calling, as much as I loved the industry; and I finally feel I'm on track and heading in the right direction.
It’s taken time, a physical breakdown, 3 country moves across the globe, a lot of deep felt soul searching, some failures, plus a fair amount of fear and frustration along the way. However, I still can say without one iota of a doubt that it’s all been worth it.
All the big steps I had to go through lead me to my path now. In fact, some of the experiences you could perceive as bad, stopping me in my tracks in all directions, are what drove me to create change to live a more fulfilling life, rather than sticking with the status quo.
What I’ve learnt during this time is:
The fear of not doing it was worse, than the fear of actually doing it. If I'd stayed where I was, while things would have been okay, my spirit would have died a little inside.
The universe supports you when you take the leap, and you will be surprised how things start to happen in ways you can’t imagine when you follow your dreams.
Go through the doors that open. Opportunities that you want don’t always open up immediately, but others do. I’ve learnt to not keep banging on the ones that are shut, that being available to what you might not have expected leads to something even better that you could not have imagined.
People want you to succeed. The generosity of others every time I have taken a big chance has been heart-warming, to say the least. I wish I could write a list here of all the people I am grateful to that have supported me, but it would be longer than the article. While you may come across some detractors, in general they are few and far between, and I choose not to focus my energy in that direction.
Patience is required, things don’t always happen at the pace that you wish them to go, but I’ve also found that they happen at the rate you can usually cope with. We might want a certain outcome immediately, but if that actually happened at the speed we wanted it might actually not be the best thing for our growth, learning, and even our happiness, if it all was created too quickly. Although we might look to others, and it seems like they have almost effortless success. I can guarantee you that they have all had to build their dreams over time.
Trust your own instincts, listen to your heart, and know that there is no wrong decision. Sometimes we have to make choices just to start, alter and re-route along the way, but if we just begin, put one foot in front of the other, we get there.
Don’t compare yourself to others. I have had to re-evaluate my definition of success. These days I go by how I feel inside and the relationships in my life, rather than how far advanced I am on my path, money in the bank, or what I “have”. I’ll be honest this is not always easy, but I also do my best to trust that by doing what I love, I will always be provided for and have what I need.
There’s no finish line. When you become aligned with what you’re doing I think it’s a constant journey, and it doesn’t matter the speed you go. I hope I always keep learning and growing, that I don’t stop until the end.
What would you do if you weren’t afraid to fail?
It could be big or small, maybe it’s writing a book, learning an instrument, a language, or as big as a career change, or a move to a new city.
Sometimes taking the decision is the scariest part, all the fear of what “might” happen can be more frightening that the doing, but then you take one more step, and another, and another, and another, and before you know it you will be surprised at how far along the path you’ve come.
As the great Dr. Wayne Dyer used to say “Don’t die with the music still in you”.