There was a time in my life not so long ago, that I felt really stuck. I’d come through illness, a broken down relationship, and was in a career that didn’t feed my soul, or where I was at now in my life.
The problem was I didn’t really know where to go next. I knew things were stagnant, but I had no idea of the way forward or which way to go.
I know from speaking to many of my clients, that there is usually a time in all of our lives, no matter how young or old you are, that you question where you’re at, where you’re headed, and what you should be doing in life.
In Yoga the word for your purpose, or life’s calling, is your Dharma.
This is not a profession, although of course it can be, you might be an amazing business strategist; however, it could also be the way you parent, or something you teach, music you create; or perhaps it’s through the way you show up to life, the way you make people feel, and support the greater good of the earth, it’s inhabitants, and the environment.
They say our Dharma is something we are born with, that it’s there at the moment of conception, so rather than “finding” it, it’s something we grow to uncover.
But how do you do that? How do you get over your fears of change? Or build your confidence to move forward and do something you would really like to do?
We all have the possibility to create shifts, to make small (or big) steps to evolve ourselves as human beings. To change outdated habits, to shift your thinking, to learn something new, to build relationships, or to do the that thing you have always wanted to do.
You have the ability to transform within, that allows life to shift on the outside.
One of the blessings of meditation is that it helps you build greater self-awareness. We live in a very noisy world, and we often cover up that little voice inside of us with distraction. There is always something to occupy our time, so it’s easy to ignore those signs, or hidden truths, that we might be avoiding.
Taking time out in contemplation, to reflect, to listen, to know yourself, helps you connect to your needs, and how you can best evolve.
A wonderful suggestion from Eckhart Tolle that I love is, rather than asking,
“What do I want?”
“What does the world want from me?”
The answer may not come immediately, it may take some time, but sit in this energy, connect to stillness, and trust that the answer will arise.
Getting out in nature on your own, is another great way to connect to stillness (just don’t take your phone!)
KNOW WHAT YOU DON’T WANT
Even if you don’t know exactly what you do want, you usually know what you don’t want, and you can move away from that.
Start making little moves to shift any old dated beliefs or habits, steer away from people that might be not making you feel great, and jobs that don’t fill your heart.
The more you move away from what you don’t want, the more you can begin to see what does feed your soul. Remember you always have choice.
YOU’RE NEVER TOO OLD, TOO YOUNG, TOO INEXPERIENCED OR TOO…. (INSERT YOUR LIMITING BELIEF HERE!)
There’s been times where I wish I’d found my call earlier. (To be honest I think I did, but I was covering it up, living in ways that weren’t really consistent with my values, or at the time didn’t have the courage.)
Lately, I found inspiration in Tao Porchon Lynch, at age 100, who still teaches yoga classes 8 times per week in New York!
However, don’t wait!!
“We think we have time” ~ Buddha
Whether you’re in your 20’s, or 50’s, life goes by pretty quick, if you have something you really want in life, and you know what it is, don’t let anything hold you back.
Most of us have behaviours or beliefs that limit us, get clear on what they are, and take steps to transform them, whether that be through practice, or getting some professional help to assist you to create shifts.
TAKE THE LEAP – DO IT NOW
Take a chance, sometimes you’ve got to take a leap and just trust that the floor will be there to meet you. (I promise you from leaping a few times it will be).
Let go of the idea that there is going to be some perfect time in the future, when you have the house, the money, the “thing to impress” on the resume. If you have a calling start taking the steps now.
IT CAN BE SCARY - AND THAT’S OKAY
“You need chaos in your soul to give birth to a dancing star.”
~ Friedrich Nietzsche
Taking a risk can be scary, but it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it, in fact if it scares you, it usually means it’s important. When I first jumped into full time teaching 3 years ago and back to study, I went from a job as an Executive Producer in a film company, to taking a few meditation classes a week. It was tough, I couldn’t afford the lifestyle I used to have, I was terrified pretty much every time I sat in front of a class and had to open my mouth at least for the first 6 months, and I still get nervous when I have something very close to my heart that I have to do.
But I can say without a doubt, it has all been absolutely worth it .
MEET ANY STRUGGLE HEAD ON
When you find your path and follow it, there is struggle. It doesn’t necessarily come easy, and you have to expect it’s going to be challenging at times, but would you rather live for some day in the future that never comes, the what if?
Don’t look back at the end of your life and wonder what could have been.
We all have a song in our heart that wants to be expressed, if you love it, and it’s your path, embrace the challenge head on, meet all of the ups and downs with determination to keep growing and moving forward.
YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE PERFECT
(Anyone that’s seen my yoga moves knows this one to be true since I can’t even touch my toes, and I just embarked on my Yoga Teacher Training!).
Live your life path imperfectly, rather than someone else’s path perfectly.
Align yourself with what you want, live your truth, be yourself, and go for it. You can be great at anything you put your dedication into.
The reality is you will fail sometimes, you will fall down, you will get criticized, there can be rejections; these are the times you have to pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and use the learning as fuel to keep on going.
DO IT WITH THE FORCE OF YOUR SOUL
When you do know what you want, do it with the force of your soul, because you love it.
Don’t do it for the results, the fame, the Instagram followers, the money, do it because it’s your path. Success will come if you stick to your journey and do it with all your heart. If you keep going you will make it.
JUST BECAUSE THERE’S A LOT OF OTHER PEOPLE DOING SOMETHING DOESN’T MEAN YOU CAN’T DO IT TOO
Trust that there is enough for everyone. Don’t shy away from something just because there’s lots of others doing it. Especially if you’re on the health and wellness path like me, where it seems like there are so many people moving into this field, remember that there are a lot of people to help in this world, and you will have your own unique message that touches the one’s that need it. Work hard and you will succeed.
Overnight success is rare, and even then, if you fly into the stratosphere too quickly there maybe just as quick a come down.
I feel like I have finally reached a point where I’m getting somewhere after starting to retrain in 2013, and taking that leap in 2016 to become a full time teacher, so that’s 6 years at this point, and I know I have a long way to go, and still a lot to learn. Be patient. I’ve taught classes with just a couple of people, before the numbers started to grow. Do your utmost best for 1 person, show up as you would for a group of 20, this is what will help people feel confident in you, and you never know where a future recommendation could come from.
It might seem like everyone on Instagram is getting there faster and quicker than you, but run your own race.
If it’s your path, put your faith in the powers that be, and believe in yourself and what you have to offer. The world has a funny way of stepping into support you when you take chances and trust.
I wish you love and luck on your journey.
If I can help you in anyway shifting limiting beliefs through Kinesiology or developing a meditation practice please reach out.
The teacher training I recently undertook was with Octavio Salvado and his wonderful team of teachers at The Practice Bali 200hr YTT. Some of the inspiration for this article came from one of his last lectures before sending us on our way into the world.